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I used to argue about books like a lawyer, then my friend in Chicago said 'you're not trying to win, you're trying to listen'

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caleb262
caleb2624d ago
Chicago friend's advice makes me wonder, riveradams, how do you actually practice listening instead of just waiting?
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riveradams
That's a great friend to have. It took me years to realize I was just waiting for my turn to talk instead of actually hearing what someone said. The best conversations about books feel more like a shared discovery than a debate.
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the_holly
the_holly1h ago
Oh man, riveradams, that hits home. It's like you have to quiet the voice in your own head that's already writing your reply.
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